Monday, December 24, 2012

A Ginger with soul

I'm about to do something interesting. I'm going to describe a few people, and I want you to try and visualize them. Try and gain a deep perspective of what these people have in common. I'll eliminate the first wrong guess about this, the right answer isn't "They're all female"

The first friend is someone who has the creative bug like few other people I know. She makes bags that she sells.If I had pictures I'd post them (so stay tuned for updates!) She loves taking pictures and actually had pictures of our group of friends taken when I graduated, and gave them to us in a nice picture frame. She's also generous with her creativity. She gave me coupons for blankets to use when I got married as wedding gift, and she took a bunch of my shirts from concerts, school, and other life events and is in process of making me a t-shirt quilt. She always thinks of creative things to make, and she does really great things.

The second friend is someone who sort of boggles my mind. It's a good thing other things hold our friendship together, because our fundamental beliefs seem vastly different. I could pick almost any topic to discuss, and I feel like she could find a way to completely disagree. This friend sometimes says things that I can hardly believe someone can say at all, and does so in a way that sometimes feels like a personal attack. Other times she just feels like Comrade Yoschenko from "Silk Stockings". Yikes.

The third friend is someone who makes me laugh a lot. We were in the grocery store the other day joking about the time I made her cry in Junior High. When we get together we always are laughing. She was one of my first and best friends when I came back from my LDS mission, and she'd drive me to church. We always joke a little about our other friends. She is one of my funniest friends. For example, when we were in high school, she (against my will) played "Odds or Evens" with my Leg Hairs. When I finally guessed correctly I made her pay me back in a most amusing way that we still laugh about.
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My fourth friend is a ginger. I could stop there, but she's one of my friends that I gained a deeper understanding for as we grew older. I didn't realize that she didn't have such great self image, and she sometimes didn't have the support of those who she ought to have had. Me included. Some times we feel awkward telling people the nice truth about them. It doesn't matter if we're really close, or simply acquaintances  Society seems to not be able to get past the notion that you can remind people that they are good looking, or witty, or kind. This friend, even if she's not told frequently enough, or even believes it herself.

The interesting thing about all of this as surely you've guessed (since I'm not a very complex person.) is that these are all the same person. I've thought about writing about this friend over and over for some time. She's like a fine wine, and like most other people. She is complex. My friendship with her is precious to me, because it is not simple. I'd say she has depth of soul, but I already mentioned she's a ginger. She truly is a lady who is passionate about life, even when she tries to be tough. She has tear ducts, yet she is strong. She is intelligent, but also completely goofy.

Sometimes people have much more depth than we imagine.

Also, Merry Christmas. :)

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